It’s okay if they don’t understand.

You don’t need to be understood. 

Let me preface, in a work environment, as a communicator, as a leader, you want to make sure you’re being understood when you’re communicating. But on an emotional level, as it applies to your boundaries and your values, it’s okay if not everyone understands. 

Our values, emotions, reasons and peace are sacred. We don’t have to share them, and we don’t need others to understand them in order for us to hold them. 

Something I’ve come to embrace with gratitude, is that adults can handle their disappointment. Let them.

We don’t always need to give a reason, and we don’t always need to be understood. This is especially important as it applies to family. Family members will often feel entitled. Entitled to your time, you’re resources, your reasons and explanations. You may even want to give an explanation as to why you’ve set a certain boundary, but giving an explanation doesn’t ensure their approval. I find it best to simply act on my boundaries rather than point them out. This often saves me from being asked to give explanations and reasons that others may not understand (or affirm). Not everyone is equipped to honor your hurt. Think it all the way through before sharing. Our reasons for boundaries are just as sacred as the boundaries themselves and often, more personal.

Sometimes our reasons for holding the values and boundaries that we do, are for us to know and others to simply, respect. 

I hope this helps! ~ CM